So, I know that I'm 19 and the fact that I was thinking and gaining inspiration from disney princesses is a little weird but let's be honest, I am a little weird myself so this stuff should not surprise you anymore. Ok, now that that's out of the way, let's talk about them. I think we should start with the most popular,
CINDERELLA
Cinderella became a maid to her step mother and two step sisters after her dad passed away. She was constantly maltreated by her family and if she was going to be free from the shackles of her family, she had to take matters into her own hands. It was announced that there would be a ball at the palace where all the young maidens were invited, as it was now time for the prince to pick a wife. Of course, cinderella was banned from attending the ball. When her step mother and step sisters left for the ball, cinderella was visited by her fairygodmother who gave her a beautiful gown, glass slippers and a horse and carriage. She was now able to go to the ball, where she left her glass slipper in a bid to get back home on time and unnoticed by her step mother and sisters. In her mind, she probably tried to convince herself she was satisfied with just dancing with the prince but she knew she was not. So, how did cinderella turn her life into a fairytale?
1) She took matters into her own hands - I think that Cinderella was tired of being a victim. She was tired of taking the leftovers of her step mother and step sisters. It takes a certain anger that comes from being fed up to take a bold step and not look back. Do not wait for an event or a situation to motivate you to get to that level of anger, motivate yourself and refuse to take what life hands to you instead take what you want from life and make the most of it
2) Do not ignore opposition, work around it - Cinderella never ignored the presence of her obstacles instead she worked around them. Sometimes, one does not need to confront their enemies, they just need to be smart enough to work around them. Sometimes you just need to be wiser than your obstacle. The wisdom is in knowing when to face your obstacle nd when to work around it. Working around your obstacle sometimes is more paralysing to it than actually attacking it.
3) Make an impact - If there was anyone who knew how to make her presence felt, it was Cinderella. She was very subtle and passive about it but that did not make it any less effective or strong. Cinderella made sure she danced with the prince, so she layed the foundation of their relationship and then she left her glass slipper, so she sustained her impact on the prince. It was these actions that led the prince to look for her and this triggered the beginning of her happily ever after.
SNOW WHITE
Snow white was a girl who fell victim to the queen of her kingdom's jealousy. The queen was jealous that she was no longer the fairest in the land. This situation may seem disconnected to life of today but if you look closer, it really is not. This story can be likened to a new job, a new school, a new position, a new boss where you become th new hottest thing and the preceding is shunned. The preceding is very likely to become jealous and they are often willing to do anything to sabotage the new kid on the block.
1) This proves that help can come from the most unexpected places, so be open to receiving it - There was no way that snow white or the queen for that matter would have though that snow white would be rescued by the seven dwarfs. In today's world, change is inevitable but it is not the easiest to deal with. When you chnage jobs or schools or offices , where you get help from is most likely not where you thought you would get it from. Being open to help from anyone willing to give it can go a long way to making the transition a lot easier.
2) All that glitters is not gold - While in the house of the dwarfs, snow white is visited by the queen who disguises herself as an old lady selling juicy apples which snow white could not resist. When in a foreign place or even in familiar territory, one has to be extremely careful. As much as one should not be discriminatory whn receiving help, it is also imperative that one remains careful and is sure that there are no strings attached to the help you are getting. Remember, there is no such thing as a free lunch.
3) You may not have to work as hard you think to get what you want - Fortunately for snow white, a prince one day found her in the glass coffin she had been placed in by the dwarfs. Sometimes it just comes yor way without you making any effort. Again, wisdom is needed to know when to fight and when to wait. Sometimes, the point of your boss or your teacher giving you a hard task is not to prove yourself, sometimes it is to see whether you are confident enough to ask for help when you need it
4) Your most vulnerable self may be your strongest self. It does not get more vulnerable than being laid in a glass casket and unable to control your own body but it was also the moment where she met her prince charming. Sometimes, showing your vulnerabilty shows you are confident enough to just be yourself and that is exactly what your new boss or teacher needs to see. Admitted, the person who previously filled your new position may not be pleased but being yourself gives them no ammunition and proves to them that you are not trying to be them, so they know they have to let go and move on.
These princesses were not born with silver spoons in their mouths, they just painted their wooden spoons silver. Life is never a fairytale, one has to make a conscious effort to make it that way. The trick and the wisdom lies in knowing your own situation, not comparing yourself to anybody else. By doing this, you give yourself a fighting chance and who knows you just might find your prince charming and live happily ever after...
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